Published On: Sun, Jan 19th, 2014
Published in Category: International

Pakistan’s journalist mail to Tharoor suggests friendship, not love triangle

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New Delhi: A Twitter war and media reports that followed painted a love story with Pakistani journalist, Indian minister Shashi Tharoor’s personal life, just before the shocking news of his wife Sundanda Pushkar’s death hit the headlines, Indian media reported on Saturday.

Reports even quoted Sunanda as saying she was upset and would seek divorce for an alleged love affair between the minister and Pakistani journalist Mehr Tarar.

The publication of a personal mail from Tarar to Tharoor, reported by Rahul Kanwal of Headlines Today on Saturday, gives another angle to the spat. Apparently, there wasn’t a love triangle.
HT tried to contact Tharoor and Tarar, a columnist with Pakistan’s Daily Times, to confirm the veracity of the mail but could not reach them.
Kanwal’s exclusive article on Tarar’s mail gives a glimpse into a friendship bordering on admiration and empathy.

The mail goes to the root of the friendship. “I think you accidentally wrote on a different thread when I asked you to say something about my Friday article (in which I quoted you… thank you for reading and liking). I am mortified. I joked about it last night because I was too shocked to say anything.”

The mail, reproduced by Kanwal, focuses on admiration. Tarar says she is a huge fan of Tharoor’s books and political views. “… We have met twice. We have become very good friends. I feel very happy, and to tell you the truth kinda honoured to be your friend (sic).”

“… Thank you Shashi… for being in my life, long distance dost sahi. Some things are hard for people to fathom, and come to terms with… life teaches us to be one-dimensional and suspicious of all we can’t see. Sometimes, the communication gap between people becomes so huge — for one reason or the other — that each word is doubted, each truth becomes shallow…”
Finally the mail deals with the trouble and angst their friendship generated.

“About me being the reason you have problems with your wife… main kya kahun. I don’t even want to think what it would do to my very young kid. So I guess I was right all my life. Friendship between a man and a woman will always be labelled incorrectly. And even the woman who’s the love of your life will doubt your word against very circumstantial evidence.

“You are in my prayers, Shashi. May there be peace in your life and marriage.”